I don’t need my husband. Is that so wrong?

My feeling is I don’t *need” my husband, I *want* him.  To me, that would seem to be a compliment but he says it’s mean.  He NEEDS me.  He would never find anything & would forget to eat if it weren’t for me.  All of the tasks I rely on my spouse to do, I can either a) do myself or b) hire someone to do it.  It is slightly different now that we have a child but still…. I am going on an entire day without spousey around.  He is out of town until Friday (work).  I am managing just fine & have managed just fine without him on other occasions.  I will even dare say that I function better without him.  My house hasn’t been cluttered up, my sink remains dish free, the 2 year old was fed on time (and had a meal that contained vegetables-which he ate!), the t.v has remained off, I made jello, took out the garbage & have even managed a few minutes to sit down and write this!  I also worked a full day. 

My house is more chaotic with him around but I wouldn’t want it any other way.  I don’t need him to mow the yard, fix my car, take out the garbage or even bring home a paycheck but I do want him here.  To me, it’s a true test to be able to function just as well if not better without him but still miss him terribly when he’s gone.  I’ve never liked the question “what is it you love about your spouse?” and the played out responses like “he makes me laugh”.  To me, it’s more real not being able to put my finger on the exact reason why I miss him so much when he’s gone. 

I guess you could say that I in a way, I do *need* him because  there is that *something* missing without him around.